When Should First Families See Profiles???

2007-08-25T19:32:00.001-07:00

There is an interesting discussion once again going on the web forum that I frequent (probably too often) about the percent of failed placements. There was an interesting point made that first moms and dads should not even look at profiles until after the babies birth. At first I thought well, that won't give them much time to choose an adoptive family for their child and as I processed it more it just made more sense for first families and potential adoptive families.I think that if more first families did not even see profiles until after the babies birth then they would not have the pressure of feeling like if they changed their mind and decided to parent that they would be hurting someone in the process. This way they could make the choice of parenting or placing with no added fear of hurting a family that they may have become very close to.I think that this would also help guard potential adoptive families hearts. A failed placement is painful but if we waited until these first moms could see, hold, and bond with their babies and then make their choice I think that we would see less failed placements and more first moms feeling like they were able to make a clear "hearted" choices of parenting or placing (even though I know it will still be the most painful thing that they could ever do).This whole process has been an interesting journey for me. I have seen how God has changed my heart about first families and given me a great compassion for them and we need to give them every opportunity to make the choice to parent with out dealing with manipulation and the fear of disappointing others... still processing but I see viewing profiles after a babies birth as a good option for a difficult situation.

Colors of Grace

When Should First Families See Profiles???